In my professional information I recently received the following information:
APA member Scott Pytluk, PhD
Bucket list for two: Sharing wildest dreams can bring a couple closer — Chicago Tribune
“When partners plan for the future together, as long as there’s flexibility in it, they’re expressing a joint sense of hope about their lives together. Couples flourish when there are mutually agreed-upon goals and dreams.”
I believe that this kind of information can be valuable to couples, so I am passing it on to you. Try to share your dreams. Work on goals and dreams together.
And I am a couples and relationship therapist. A couple that is in trouble can often not share “wildest dreams” with one another. So we could use Dr. Pytluk’s information in this way also: if you can’t share your wildest dreams with each other, why not? Often the answer is because there are tensions or problems in the relationship and the couple doesn’t want to share much of anything with each other. So if you can’t share your wildest dreams, can you talk about what is bothering you with him/her? If you can’t talk with each other without getting into an argument, perhaps it is time to see professional help (couples therapy, I would recommend).
So how well are you talking with each other? Can you share your wildest dreams? How about what is bothering you (in a way that your significant other can hear you)?