Closeness, togetherness, companionship, and warmth are four of the words that jump out of the Dictionary definition. So if we take those four terms and expand a bit, it would mean that Omaha couples that wants to work on their relationship would work on being:
Those are a lot of what the goals often are in couples therapy. Realize that it often does not work to tell people to do something, even if they know it would be good for them, so in couples therapy in Omaha, the therapist has to get the couple to realized what they are saying and needing. So the therapist doesn’t just say, “Be Closer!”
And Omaha couples often do and say many things that go against intimacy. Just taking the list above and reversing them, which is how many couples are when they come for couples therapy in Omaha. They are doing the opposite of intimacy in the partnership and need help getting out of their negative patterns.
This anti-itimacy would be the Omaha couple doing things that:
Where we are heading, as a couple, can often determine where we end up. Where is your relationship heading? Towards closeness or not? To be together or apart? To be companions or the opposite of companions (not caring for each other or even enemies)? To be warm to one another or cold?
So it would be beneficial for you and your partner, for every couple, to change direction (at least a bit), to change course, and to move more so than you currently are into more:
But it is also often true that couples cannot get themselves to do this with one another, cannot increase intimacy, because they are stuck in one of the negative spirals that couples can get themselves into. One of the frequent negative spirals is blaming the other. If each of the partners does not came back from that position (the blaming of the partner) to look at his/her own behavior then the couple stays stuck. There are fewer partnerships (but they do occur) where one of the partners is not being intimate and is actively pursuing important intimacies of life outside the relationship. If both are in full agreement of that, it may work for the couple. But it is mostly done on the sly and is destructive of intimacy as well as the relationship.
Intimacy, for many couples, is the glue that holds the partnership together. It is hard work for everyone, best I know, to keep working on intimacy in the relationship to keep it going well. But it is worth it. Not working towards intimacy can work for some couples. Most, however, need to work on the relationship, to work on deepening the intimacy, and to have growth or they are headed toward failure.
Dr. Robert G. Kraft is a career psychologist in Omaha, NE. He earned his doctorate, as well as his bachelors and masters before that, from the University of Nebraska at Lincoln. Has practiced in Nebraska ever since.
As well as maintaining his practice, Dr. Kraft is an Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Creighton University School of Medicine, where he teaches residents about psychotherapy.