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​ADRIAN MARTIN, MS, LIMFT
Relationship Therapy for Couples
​​(402) 577-0727
Licensed in Nebraska, Iowa, Kansas, & Florida
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​Why couples therapy?

Do you hear or say statements like these?

       “We have the same argument over and over”
                  “We live like roommates”
                               “I love you, but I’m not in love with you”
                                            “I wish we could work together, not against each other”


If these seem familiar, then you’ve come to the right place.

Couples therapy is helpful when partners find their relationship has become less rewarding & less romantic, or more conflictual and argumentative.  You may feel your relationship is on the brink of separation or divorce, or you may wish to improve what you have and increase your ability to collaborate as a couple and increase your levels of emotional and physical intimacy.  

Some relationships deteriorate over time, often without partners really being aware of the changes. Other couples go through relationship changing events such as affairs and infidelity.  Some experience other situations that lead partners to question their trust in each other, or leave them believing that they just can’t come to a workable solution.

Partners can often present as highly functioning individuals.  They may do well in life, at work, or school - but the cracks start to show in their intimate relationships.  A close, intimate, long-term relationship can really test individuals and their ability to function effectively and collaboratively; sometimes to their limits.

​I am very open to working with couples irrespective of their “presenting problems”, stage of life, relationship status, or gender identity and sexual orientation.  

mY APPROACH TO couples therapy

I work with a wide variety of couples and their presenting problems, but one common theme that re-occurs time after time, is that relational dysfunction usually stems from the partners’ own ability to operate as solid, independent individuals whilst being in a close and intimate relationship with each other. This is known as the partner’s level of differentiation.  My work with couples is very much based on the Crucible Approach® developed by Dr. David Schnarch.  You can read more about my training with Dr. Schnarch & Dr. Morehouse of the Crucible Institute® in the about me section.  

This approach, a blend of couples and sex therapy, creates relational change through personal growth.  Couples are challenged to consider their individual contributions to their relational dysfunction and to grow to be better able to manage themselves and their emotions while collaborating with their partner & developing a deeper connection with each other.
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Sometimes couples come to therapy as a “last resort”, or because a serious relationship threatening event has recently occurred.  Maybe one or both are seriously considering separation or divorce.  Often, if this is the case, couples may feel they are some way off from contemplating the idea of developing a deeper connection with their partner.  At this point, the work is more focused on developing an understanding of the potential of the relationship and whether continuing the relationship could be a viability.  This work is centered around establishing what each partner might need in order to be able to consider working on the relationship before transitioning to couples therapy.

I explore clients and their presenting problems or symptoms within various contexts, including the individual's cultural and ethnic backgrounds.  I believe it is important to understand an individual or family's traditions, rituals, language, and firmly base my treatment approach on the needs of the client.  I take a biopsychosocial spiritual approach to my work, in other words I explore client’s problems and symptoms from several angles; the biological, the psychological, the social, and the spiritual.  I believe factors from all of these areas contribute to peoples’ experiences of life.  I help clients to better understand their own view of their world and explore with them the difficulties, disruptions, conflicts, and pains that they experience in that world. 

My goal is to assist my clients to identify their personal strengths and potential for positive change, to create new ways of seeing themselves, their relationships, and their world, and to help them develop coping skills that promote flexibility and an ability to live life and their relationships to a greater potential.

Intensive Couples Therapy

​Traditionally, the format for couple's therapy has been to meet weekly for 55-minute sessions.  I have found significant benefits in conducting far longer, more intensive sessions and now offer multiple half-day (3 hour) intensive sessions with two-hour follow-ups.  Increasing the intensity of the work, through a combination of the Crucible approach and longer sessions helps us to get to a deeper level more quickly and identify what each partner is doing in the relationship that is hindering them being successful with each other. Intensive couples therapy has proven to help couples address their issues more effectively and completely and has helped couples wrap-up their work at an overall faster pace and in a shorter time span.  My standard recommendation to a new couple is to initially schedule three half-day (3 hour) intensive sessions, usually on consecutive days, or within a 4-day span depending on availability.  At the end of the last intensive session, we then make a plan together on how to proceed on any future work based on the couple's needs and the stage of progress met in those initial nine hours.  I also offer "fly-in" intensives, which are particularly aimed at couples who live outside of the Omaha area and wish to travel in and stay in local accommodation while they do their intensive work.  With this format, couples attend 3 to 4 consecutive half-days and spend their free-time between sessions, exploring the area and each other, as well as practicing the strategies we discuss in session.  Please contact me to discuss these various options.
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about me

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​​I was born & raised on the North East coast of England and I have lived and worked in London and Los Angeles, prior to settling in Omaha.  In the past, I have worked in a variety of roles, all creative & some managerial; holding a range of positions including General Manager, Managing Director, and Board Chairman.

Since switching to the mental health care field, I have studied at the Metanoia Institute in London, Pepperdine University in Los Angeles, the University of Nebraska – Lincoln (UN-L), and University of Nebraska Medical Center (UNMC).  I hold a masters’ degree in Marriage & Family Therapy (2005), and a post-graduate certificate in Medical Family Therapy, which leads me to conceptualize all my work from a systemic perspective.  I have worked at all levels of care; including in-patient, partial & out-patient settings.  My clinical focus is very much on relationship therapy, particularly with couples.  I have had extensive training with the Crucible Institute® and continue to engage in ongoing education & regular case consultations.  You can read more about my training in the Crucible Approach to couples and sex therapy.
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I am a licensed Independent Mental Health Practitioner (LIMHP) in Nebraska and a board certified and independently licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LIMFT).  I am a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) and I am a Past-President of both the Nebraska Association for Marriage & Family Therapy and the Association of Private Practice Therapists.  I am also an AAMFT Approved Supervisor.
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FAQ

Do you work with us individually as well as a couple?

My preference is to do all of our work with you as a couple. Ultimately, I see your relationship as being my client, and the focus is always therefore on your relational dynamic. When I meet with one partner alone, the absent partner loses out on the potential of understanding their partner’s experience and thought process and there is a risk that the couple’s therapy can become unbalanced.

I want to see you on my own first, is that OK?

As above, the preference is to always work as a couple – however, sometimes couples therapy comes out of one partner seeking help about their relationship on their own. I aim to be as flexible as possible, in order for us to get our work done, and encourage you to reach out – even if your partner seems to be reluctant to join you.

How many sessions will we need?

That’s a difficult one! Some couples reach their goals fairly quickly, others take more time. There are many variables at play – how complex are the couple’s presenting problems? How long have they been in conflict, or feeling disconnected? How willing are they to be flexible with each other and work on their relationship? I would suggest to all couples that we take stock of progress regularly and assess what work is left to be done.

How often will we meet?

My current recommendation for a couple is to start with three of the half-day (3 hour) intensive sessions, usually all within the same week. That way we compress the equivalent of about 9 or 10 weeks work into the space of a week. After that third intensive session, we decide together how we wish to proceed for any further work. Follow-ups are usually 2-hour sessions, spaced out by a few weeks.

Will there be homework?

Sometimes! There is definitely no workbook to be completed here, but there may be some suggested reading to help support the work in session. We may also discuss activities for you to work on together in between sessions.

Can we bring our kids / baby?

You may feel that your kids are the cause of most of your stresses and lead to many of the arguments between you. However, couples therapy can (and should) be challenging, and will require your full attention to be on yourselves and your relationship. You may also not want your kids to overhear some of our conversations, so making arrangements for your kids so that you can be here as a couple is by far the best strategy.

Will this work, we’ve done marriage counseling before?

Obviously, there are no guarantees, but I firmly believe that the approach I use for relationship therapy, the Crucible ® approach, is significantly different to the approach most marriage therapists use. The work is challenging and ultimately encourages and requires personal growth to improve the relationship. I find that most couples that consider their relationship issues from this perspective see a side of themselves and their relational dynamic that they may have missed in previous episodes of treatment.

I don’t know if I want to be in my relationship, should we still come?

Yes. It is not unusual for one, or both partners to be considering separation or divorce when their relationship is not working for them, particularly if they have been discontented for an extended period of time. Sometimes the initial work is for both partners to evaluate the potential of their relationship, and what they would each need in order to move forward before they can commit to working on the relationship.

hours, fees & payment

HOURS

  • Monday 08:30am to 5:00pm
  • Tuesday 08:30am to 5:00pm
  • Wednesday 08:30am to 5:00pm
  • Thursday 10:00am to 6:00pm
  • Friday by Special Arrangement

All sessions by availability & appointment only

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FEES

  • Half-Day Couple's Intensive (3 hrs) - $695
  • Follow-up Session (120 min) - $430
  • Follow-up Session (55 min) - $215
  • 1-hour Evaluation for individuals - $250
  • Phone Consultations over 15 mins - pro-rata

I accept Cash, Check, Visa & Mastercard

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I accept cash and checks, as well as Visa & Mastercards.  Clients often use their Health Savings Accounts (HSA), or Flexible Spending Accounts (FSA) as a tax efficient way to pay for therapy and I can supply monthly statements to help support those charges. 

I am more than happy to discuss the likely costs of doing couples therapy, including the potential for accessing your out-of-network insurance benefits, prior to starting our work together so that you may make an informed choice.

Please see my cancellation policy on the resources page.
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WHAT PREVIOUS CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY .....

  • My husband and I benefited greatly from our time with Adrian. During our sessions, Adrian helped us to discover different perspectives of our experiences to help build deeper and more meaningful connections. I found Adrian to be thoughtful and responsive to my needs and provided a safe and understanding sound board for us to express our pain. I am thankful to have been able to see Adrian and would recommend him to anyone in need of his services. - ​

  • Your guidance was instrumental in healing our relationship. Thank you for sharing your gifts of impartiality and compassion. -

  • ​We sought counseling not as a last-ditch effort, but as a coaching tool to help us deal with a few specific issues. Adrian's approach of treating the relationship instead of the issues was key in helping us to be able to work out our issues on our own time. Adrian helped to put things in perspective: we are a team and that any problem felt by one individual is a problem to be shared by both. We are now better equipped to deal with whatever challenges we will face in the future, our relationship is much stronger as a result. -

GET IN TOUCH

Due to my current high case load, the most efficient way to connect with me is to use the "send me a message" button below and let me know what's happening in your relationship and what you hope to get out of couples therapy. I will then respond via secure email with further information & availability.

CONTACT DETAILS
Adrian Martin, MS, LIMFT
Omaha Couples Clinic
18025 Oak St, Suite A
Omaha, Nebraska, 68130-6100 (402) 577-0727
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Licensed in Nebraska, Iowa, Kansas, & Florida.
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